Years ago as a mother of school age children and even now as a parent of three grown adult men, I always desire their best not wanting them to fail. As parents we love to see our kids succeed in all they do, whether they are 10 years old or 25… giving an oral presentation at their new job or finger painting in kindergarten. I remember when they were little I had to be careful not to hover, prod, and many times do the work for them.
TODAY Moms contributor, Amy McCready, founder of Positive Parenting Solutions and the author of If I Have to Tell You One More Time…The revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids to Listen Without Nagging, Reminding or Yelling, shares great wisdom.
“Many of us parents are overly invested in our children’s success, sacrificing in the long-term lessons for the short-term achievements. When we keep our kids from failure, we rob from them the opportunity to learn from their mistakes, to develop resilience and the ability to bounce back, to feel confident taking risks and to face their problems with strength and courage.”
“However, you can teach your child that ‘fail’ doesn’t mean he’s a ‘failure.’ Instead, every mistake is a chance to learn –and prepare for even bigger decisions down the road.”
“Set the expectation that school performance is your kids’ responsibility, not yours. Teach them to recognize the signs of struggling, and help them think of ways to get more help if they need it. Encourage them to develop a plan to improve their grades, but keep the responsibility for the effort in their hands.”
“While we will always want the best for our children, we can’t protect them forever. They’ll deal with disappointment and failure their whole lives – so teaching them to negotiate these tough experiences early on will ultimately set them up to make good decisions when it really matters.”
To read the full article go to www.today.com/…/bright-side-blunders-why-we-should-let-kids–fail-1C…